Perfection vs. Imperfection: Unveiling the heart of a pastor’s wife

Special guest Coletta Smith, of Mission Hills Church and a pastor’s wife for over 26 years, shines a light on the topic, "what your pastor’s wife wishes you knew about her but didn’t know how to tell you until now." 

0:14 Twanna Henderson introduces guest speaker Coletta Smith from Mission Hills Church in Littleton, Colorado.

1:19 Coletta shares how there are two types of churches. Churches that look for perfection in their pastor and churches that look for imperfection in their pastors. 

3:52 Coletta describes from her own experience and the pastors’ wives she has interacted with what the general reflection of a pastor’s wife’s heart is. 

5:49 Coletta shares how a wise pastor’s wife navigates through trust. 

7:44 Coletta shares a real-life experience of walking through criticism from others. 

10:37 A nugget of truth Coletta and her husband hold on to: chew the meat and spit out the bones.

12:34 Coletta honestly shares her thought struggle at the beginning of her ministry, saying, "There is a big place for my husband, but there is no place for me."

14:02 Coletta is honest about her second struggle of feeling uninvited. 

15:33 Twanna asks, "Does the pastor’s wife have friends?" 

18:49 Coletta challenges pastors’ wives to think about where they are finding their value.

21:22 The unique calling of a pastor’s wife is to walk shoulder to shoulder with her husband and figuring out how to support him in the role of shepherding his flock. 

23:11 Twanna asks Coletta what she would tell a new pastor’s wife.

24:42 Coletta shares her family’s fun and normal moments and also shares about their harder times. 

28:33 Prayer is the best way the church can support their pastor’s wife.

29:21 Pastors’ wives can feel under-appreciated at times.

31:41 Coletta closes in prayer over all pastors’ wives. 

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